I have never been so happy, exited, interested and confused ever. Life you are one amazing thing.
Holly
Tuesday 25 February 2014
Tuesday 18 February 2014
3 REASONS I HATE BEING FEMALE
Being female has it's good bits don't get me wrong, and in no way to I hate the female gender but I feel society has forced women to be viewed and also view themselves in such a unfair way.
1. Being expected to settle down
The most annoying questions I am asked is, Why don't you want kids? and Why wouldn't you want to get married? and the bazaar thing is, I get these expectation mostly from females my age 17!!! and every time I answer with because I want to keep my life for myself and live how I please, so I get accused of being selfish or hating children both of which are untrue, I like children I just don't want to have any. And to answer the second question I would say that I think its pointless, I don't see a relevancy in it, all you gain is a overly priced ring, a piece of paper and debt, but because I am I girl I am instantly associated with wanting materialistic things. Don't get me wrong if you believe in marriage go for it and I love going to weddings but for myself I think its pointless. The reason this makes me hate my gender is because women are expected to settle down by EVERYONE no one really cares what you want for yourself they only care that you have ovaries therefore breed and take care of it for the rest of your life. I really want girls in generations to come to learn that you can have your own opinions on marriage you don't have to accept what you are told, and if you don't what a child you don't have to have any.
2. Having different moral expectations compared to men
Some phrases that really get to me are:
Girls are sluts if they sleep with lots of guys
Girls shouldn't get tattoos
Girls shouldn't swear
I don't understand where this came from and again the fact that other girls MY AGE say this blows my mind, of course you don't have to do any of these but what gives anyone the right to judge others who do. I don't care whether a girl has slept with 0 people or 500 people, to me it is totally irrelevant in weather I want to be around a person but some people just hate the fact that girls can get horney and guys can sleep around and no one gives two shits, why is female sexuality so taboo, girls having sex before the 21 is abominable but for a guy its strange, why do we shame women because of sex?
When people bring up the topic of females getting tattoos I instantly think of my mum, the fact that I want one freaks her out but my brothers can make there own choices, don't get me wrong my mum wouldn't take my freedom away she just dislikes that I want one, but this shows how women are preserved not only as things that need to be kept 'pure' but also that we are incapable of making informed decisions. Another annicdonte I would like to share is that of ear piercings, thankfully my mother would never have forced my do get my ears pierced but when I got old enough to make the decision she always asked my why I didn't want them (personally I don't like the idea of stabbing holes in my face for things to hang of) but my brother who was 13 at the time got his ears pierced my mother was outraged. A bit side tracked but you get where I'm coming from.
Now girls shouldn't swear this is quite annoying especially when people say "OH THAT WAS SO UNLADYLIKE" I honestly don't understand why it is so different nor can I guess as swearing has never really bothered me.
3. Objectification, then more objectification trying to stop objectification
Let me explain the difference between OBJECTIFICATION and a EMBRACING THE HUMAN BODY. Objectification is when you think of the living thing, in this case women, and completely forget that it is a real person, i.e looking at nudity and sexulising it. Embracing the human body is when you don't have to look at nudity in a sexulised way. Objectification is awful for women, I can't say from a mans perceptive because I am not one but I'm sure it is no better. When you are walking down the street and you hear a horn or someone wolf wistel and say crude things, it is the worst thing, knowing that people are just looking at you sexually, this started happening when I was only 13 years old and trust me that is normal for millions of young girls unfortunately. Men if you think a women is pretty don't wistle or say crude thing, stop and say 'hey, you are really pretty', it will increase self-esteem and not stomp on it. I think the main reason we objectify people is because most people are unable to look at the human body in a non sexual way. This is probably due to the same reasons as the others as people expect women to be this unattainable 'pure' thing. Breasts are sexulised which is why it is seen as a bad thing for women to be topless, for women to breast feed there babies (the most natural thing ever) and wear 'revealing' clothes. I personally much more comfortable in my own skin once I stopped sexulising and shaming myself for the body I can't help having, I have excepted that I have breasts and I what others to as well. I don't understand why people hate it what there shown, I don't see it any differently to a man being topless. So this leads on to the objectifying to stop objectification, because humans are apparently completely incapable of not sexulising bodies, we have decided that the only way to avoid it is to cover them up, make sure not one nipple is exposed for anyone to see and then this lead to slut shaming and objectifying women who choose to embrace the human body.
I have so many more things, this list was originally 10 but then I realised I don't have the patients to write that much. But I think if we are going to change anything, make it point number 3, lets let people stop worrying about there body and start embracing it and loving themselves.
Holly
1. Being expected to settle down
The most annoying questions I am asked is, Why don't you want kids? and Why wouldn't you want to get married? and the bazaar thing is, I get these expectation mostly from females my age 17!!! and every time I answer with because I want to keep my life for myself and live how I please, so I get accused of being selfish or hating children both of which are untrue, I like children I just don't want to have any. And to answer the second question I would say that I think its pointless, I don't see a relevancy in it, all you gain is a overly priced ring, a piece of paper and debt, but because I am I girl I am instantly associated with wanting materialistic things. Don't get me wrong if you believe in marriage go for it and I love going to weddings but for myself I think its pointless. The reason this makes me hate my gender is because women are expected to settle down by EVERYONE no one really cares what you want for yourself they only care that you have ovaries therefore breed and take care of it for the rest of your life. I really want girls in generations to come to learn that you can have your own opinions on marriage you don't have to accept what you are told, and if you don't what a child you don't have to have any.
2. Having different moral expectations compared to men
Some phrases that really get to me are:
Girls are sluts if they sleep with lots of guys
Girls shouldn't get tattoos
Girls shouldn't swear
I don't understand where this came from and again the fact that other girls MY AGE say this blows my mind, of course you don't have to do any of these but what gives anyone the right to judge others who do. I don't care whether a girl has slept with 0 people or 500 people, to me it is totally irrelevant in weather I want to be around a person but some people just hate the fact that girls can get horney and guys can sleep around and no one gives two shits, why is female sexuality so taboo, girls having sex before the 21 is abominable but for a guy its strange, why do we shame women because of sex?
When people bring up the topic of females getting tattoos I instantly think of my mum, the fact that I want one freaks her out but my brothers can make there own choices, don't get me wrong my mum wouldn't take my freedom away she just dislikes that I want one, but this shows how women are preserved not only as things that need to be kept 'pure' but also that we are incapable of making informed decisions. Another annicdonte I would like to share is that of ear piercings, thankfully my mother would never have forced my do get my ears pierced but when I got old enough to make the decision she always asked my why I didn't want them (personally I don't like the idea of stabbing holes in my face for things to hang of) but my brother who was 13 at the time got his ears pierced my mother was outraged. A bit side tracked but you get where I'm coming from.
Now girls shouldn't swear this is quite annoying especially when people say "OH THAT WAS SO UNLADYLIKE" I honestly don't understand why it is so different nor can I guess as swearing has never really bothered me.
3. Objectification, then more objectification trying to stop objectification
Let me explain the difference between OBJECTIFICATION and a EMBRACING THE HUMAN BODY. Objectification is when you think of the living thing, in this case women, and completely forget that it is a real person, i.e looking at nudity and sexulising it. Embracing the human body is when you don't have to look at nudity in a sexulised way. Objectification is awful for women, I can't say from a mans perceptive because I am not one but I'm sure it is no better. When you are walking down the street and you hear a horn or someone wolf wistel and say crude things, it is the worst thing, knowing that people are just looking at you sexually, this started happening when I was only 13 years old and trust me that is normal for millions of young girls unfortunately. Men if you think a women is pretty don't wistle or say crude thing, stop and say 'hey, you are really pretty', it will increase self-esteem and not stomp on it. I think the main reason we objectify people is because most people are unable to look at the human body in a non sexual way. This is probably due to the same reasons as the others as people expect women to be this unattainable 'pure' thing. Breasts are sexulised which is why it is seen as a bad thing for women to be topless, for women to breast feed there babies (the most natural thing ever) and wear 'revealing' clothes. I personally much more comfortable in my own skin once I stopped sexulising and shaming myself for the body I can't help having, I have excepted that I have breasts and I what others to as well. I don't understand why people hate it what there shown, I don't see it any differently to a man being topless. So this leads on to the objectifying to stop objectification, because humans are apparently completely incapable of not sexulising bodies, we have decided that the only way to avoid it is to cover them up, make sure not one nipple is exposed for anyone to see and then this lead to slut shaming and objectifying women who choose to embrace the human body.
I have so many more things, this list was originally 10 but then I realised I don't have the patients to write that much. But I think if we are going to change anything, make it point number 3, lets let people stop worrying about there body and start embracing it and loving themselves.
Holly
Friday 14 February 2014
WHY?
I spend my nights contemplating humanity.
The smallest things that disagree with my way of thinking that happen during the day make my mind go into overload.
I can't help but see the flaws in humans strange society and when I mentioned it people see me as harsh and opinionated.
There are very few people I can talk to civily about my thought and no one who 100% gets me.
My friends once said to me they could see me working as part of a big company in a city with a boyfriend and wearing suits this is when I realised how little the people I am closest to know me! I dislike corporatism I hate greed and selfishness, I love nature, I love this planet and I believe in freedom.
I only dislike the way I look when I am surrounded by people who wish they looked different. When people say 'I wish I was that person' it hurts my soul, why would anyone want to be anyone but them selves.
Why do we deprive others of what they believe, why do we make others believe what we believe?
Why are we so blind to this?
I sometimes wish I was blind to it.
Why human race?
Could I please talk to someone who believes in the meaning of humanity!
Care for nature, animals and eachother, why do we have to destroy them, hurt them and take away freedom.
Is there anyone out there.
The smallest things that disagree with my way of thinking that happen during the day make my mind go into overload.
I can't help but see the flaws in humans strange society and when I mentioned it people see me as harsh and opinionated.
There are very few people I can talk to civily about my thought and no one who 100% gets me.
My friends once said to me they could see me working as part of a big company in a city with a boyfriend and wearing suits this is when I realised how little the people I am closest to know me! I dislike corporatism I hate greed and selfishness, I love nature, I love this planet and I believe in freedom.
I only dislike the way I look when I am surrounded by people who wish they looked different. When people say 'I wish I was that person' it hurts my soul, why would anyone want to be anyone but them selves.
Why do we deprive others of what they believe, why do we make others believe what we believe?
Why are we so blind to this?
I sometimes wish I was blind to it.
Why human race?
Could I please talk to someone who believes in the meaning of humanity!
Care for nature, animals and eachother, why do we have to destroy them, hurt them and take away freedom.
Is there anyone out there.
Tuesday 4 February 2014
VEGETARIANISM PART 1
Being vegetarian has been a massive part of my life for the past 10 years. Since I was 7 years old I haven't eaten meat. Now whenever this topic comes up in conversation it always strikes a debate (not that I mind a good debate) it seems that people have this really uninformed and one-sided view of vegetarians and vegans. I was having a debate one day where it got so out of hand the person started accusing us of lying because we eat bananas which have similar DNA to humans, idiotic, I know but these people seem unable to comprehend that people can choose a lifestyle away from meat. It seems to me that people who have such a bad view on vegetarians are those which associate us with the massive animal rights people who believe any killing of animals is wrong and you are immoral if you eat meat, when the majority of vegetarians say 'live and let live' pun not intended. What I am trying to get across is that not all vegetarians have such a drastic view of what others choose which is why I believe people get so angry when they meet us.
My reason for turning vegetarian has definitely evolved since I was 7 years old, when I was 7 I believed eating meat was cruel and should never ever be done. I thought this way as I had seen slaughter on TV and it suddenly become very real to me, now a lot of you are probably thinking 'Why would her parents let her see that?' well the truth is why should they hide it from me? My parents eat meat and I think like many parents they didn't want to tell me the food I used to eat was derived from the killing of animals, but what I don't understand is why are we hiding it from children? are we really that ashamed of it? Has it become such a taboo thing to know where the food you are eating really comes from. (food for thought there) But back to my point when I was about 13/14 ish I had kind of grown a hatred for people bringing it up and arguing with me over it, at this stage I didn't believe the consumption of animals was wrong but that was very hard to get across to people especially when they cant see that its possible for vegetarians to not want to force there lifestyle on others.
Then there is now where I believe and I will quote 'I do not eat animals because I believe, by my own personal morals that has grown through doing research, that the consumption of animals has gotten to a level where it is way too large and over reaches demand and I also disagree with the way animals are being slaughtered at slaughter houses and I believe the public are very unaware of were food actually comes from'
The reasoning behind my beliefs are that 7 BILLION chickens JUST in the US are being killed every year for human consumption. To me that is WAY more than there should be. The other point of disagreeing with slaughter method I think is completely up to you but I do think everyone should be aware of the way animals, especially cattle, are slaughtered so you can make your own decision as to whether you want to continue consuming or not, I think it is completely personal to you, and that ties in to why I think people are unaware of were food comes from, if anyone reads this I ask you to PLEASE do research into how your meat gets on your table to just settle 'but it tastes good', 'i don't want to see that' these aren't reasons and you are just afraid of what is really happening! If you are fine with still eating meat with the knowledge behind you GO AHEAD EAT IT , I'm not hear to abolish animal consumption just make people more aware.
There is sooooo much more for me to say on this but this is why its called part 1.
Holly Tree
My reason for turning vegetarian has definitely evolved since I was 7 years old, when I was 7 I believed eating meat was cruel and should never ever be done. I thought this way as I had seen slaughter on TV and it suddenly become very real to me, now a lot of you are probably thinking 'Why would her parents let her see that?' well the truth is why should they hide it from me? My parents eat meat and I think like many parents they didn't want to tell me the food I used to eat was derived from the killing of animals, but what I don't understand is why are we hiding it from children? are we really that ashamed of it? Has it become such a taboo thing to know where the food you are eating really comes from. (food for thought there) But back to my point when I was about 13/14 ish I had kind of grown a hatred for people bringing it up and arguing with me over it, at this stage I didn't believe the consumption of animals was wrong but that was very hard to get across to people especially when they cant see that its possible for vegetarians to not want to force there lifestyle on others.
Then there is now where I believe and I will quote 'I do not eat animals because I believe, by my own personal morals that has grown through doing research, that the consumption of animals has gotten to a level where it is way too large and over reaches demand and I also disagree with the way animals are being slaughtered at slaughter houses and I believe the public are very unaware of were food actually comes from'
The reasoning behind my beliefs are that 7 BILLION chickens JUST in the US are being killed every year for human consumption. To me that is WAY more than there should be. The other point of disagreeing with slaughter method I think is completely up to you but I do think everyone should be aware of the way animals, especially cattle, are slaughtered so you can make your own decision as to whether you want to continue consuming or not, I think it is completely personal to you, and that ties in to why I think people are unaware of were food comes from, if anyone reads this I ask you to PLEASE do research into how your meat gets on your table to just settle 'but it tastes good', 'i don't want to see that' these aren't reasons and you are just afraid of what is really happening! If you are fine with still eating meat with the knowledge behind you GO AHEAD EAT IT , I'm not hear to abolish animal consumption just make people more aware.
There is sooooo much more for me to say on this but this is why its called part 1.
Holly Tree
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